Buying a Strap for son?

[TideFan4199]

ibz…cool dad you are for sure. Always thought my bud’s dad knew what was going on upstairs. Lol. Wondered if he would ever come up and catch/join us…kind of wish he had

 

[ibz1492]

I always wished for that, even though I was not "into" my Dad except that I wanted to work his quite large junk.

 

[JockbudNYC]

I always wished for that, even though I was not "into" my Dad except that I wanted to work his quite large junk.

What does work it mean?

 

[ibz1492]

What does work it mean?

I wanted to hold it, feel it thicken, get hard and long.... After that, I don't know if I would have wanted to suck it, or not.

 

[diego501]

As Misdemeanor Elliot said “work it, like a glass of water. Boy, oh boy it’s good to know ya” -swallow it down!

 

[JockbudNYC]

I wanted to hold it, feel it thicken, get hard and long.... After that, I don't know if I would have wanted to suck it, or not.h

How old were you when you saw it last? Has he seen yours? Have you talked about your cocks together?

 

[TideFan4199]

I always wished for that, even though I was not "into" my Dad except that I wanted to work his quite large junk.

Not into my dad either….never was a thing at all. I guess mine was more his dad or an older brother thing….experience and learn with older cocks…lol

 

[ibz1492]

How old were you when you saw it last? Has he seen yours? Have you talked about your cocks together?

There has never been a time since I have my first memories that I have not seen all of my Dad, all of him; excited and flaccid. Naturally, he has seen me in all states and he always encouraged me to never hide from him anything I might be doing in private. When I started really playing with myself, fairly constantly as all pre-teens do, it seemed strange to continue when he came into my room. He would occasionally haul his junk out of his ever-present jock or strap and work himself a bit so I understood that what I was doing was normal and very healthy. More Dads need to get over their shyness and man up to dad responsibilities. Ask any kid if he would have liked more info, instruction, understanding, and chats when he went through those fragile early years of realizing that boys have an amazing pleasure tool but it doesn't come with an instruction manual!!!

 

[ibz1492]

Not into my dad either….never was a thing at all. I guess mine was more his dad or an older brother thing….experience and learn with older cocks…lol

Experience and learn with older cocks, for sure.... but only those who have the boy's best interests at heart! The son of our cleaning lady has no Dad in his life and has huge issues which his Mom doesn't even recognize but is crying out to be noticed. I have tried approaching him, and at 17 years it is very late to help the poor kid! How sad.

 

[billTO]

Experience and learn with older cocks, for sure.... but only those who have the boy's best interests at heart! The son of our cleaning lady has no Dad in his life and has huge issues which his Mom doesn't even recognize but is crying out to be noticed. I have tried approaching him, and at 17 years it is very late to help the poor kid! How sad.

That is sad. If he goes away for further study (probably unlikely), might he experiment a bit on his own? That would help, but it's harder than learning early from a man you can trust.

 

[ibz1492]

That is sad. If he goes away for further study (probably unlikely), might he experiment a bit on his own? That would help, but it's harder than learning early from a man you can trust.

Since I first got to know him at about 11 yrs, I have been so sure that he was effeminate enough to be gay, once he realized his interests. Now, when I try to bring up any subject about his "special interests", he acts totally dumb about the matter. I am afraid to make a move, but I have left toys and jocks, and posing straps all over the main bathroom so he can't miss seeing everything. I never notice that he has touched anything and never questioned me.

 

[DannyBoyz]

Experience and learn with older cocks, for sure.... but only those who have the boy's best interests at heart! The son of our cleaning lady has no Dad in his life and has huge issues which his Mom doesn't even recognize but is crying out to be noticed. I have tried approaching him, and at 17 years it is very late to help the poor kid! How sad.

In my culture that would never happen between me and my dad.. the ‘talk’ etc. tho I started young with older men, always wish there’s that uncle, coach, or mentor to intro me to jockstraps much early on among other things

 

[billTO]

In my culture that would never happen between me and my dad.. the ‘talk’ etc. tho I started young with older men, always wish there’s that uncle, coach, or mentor to intro me to jockstraps much early on among other things

If I may ask, what culture?

You are so right, an older man that is not immediate family would be ideal.

 

[DannyBoyz]

If I may ask, what culture?

You are so right, an older man that is not immediate family would be ideal.

Asian culture. I was born in Hong Kong and my dad especially is very reserved, not that we had a bad relationship but we would just never be open like that having him getting me a jock or talking about sex would never come up

 

[TideFan4199]

Asian culture. I was born in Hong Kong and my dad especially is very reserved, not that we had a bad relationship but we would just never be open like that having him getting me a jock or talking about sex would never come up

Being raised in the “Deep South “ and conservative Christian family, experienced somewhat the same thing

 

[Deleted member 1943]

If I may ask, what culture?

You are so right, an older man that is not immediate family would be ideal.

I think you are right on this, best if it is someone who is not immediate family. This is fortunately how it happened in my life.

 

[TideFan4199]

In the society we live in today, it’s a tricky line to walk. Between guys experiencing/learning and what is being called abuse today. Sad for sure

 

[TideFan4199]

I think you are right on this, best if it is someone who is not immediate family. This is fortunately how it happened in my life.

Know seeing older guys and men sure got my attention at the gym and local pool! Learned a lot

 

[Deleted member 1943]

I was really responding to the sentiment in DannyBoyz previous post. Like his Dad, mine didn’t step up to the plate on certain topics. I think it was difficult for him, and who knows it may have been the same with him and his dad. I don’t hold it against him. We forgive our parents for a lot as time goes on. Somehow my Dad’s buddy picked up on it, and he proxied for my dad on certain topics. Since my dad traveled a lot for work, he stood in for him quite a bit. Really I think my dad was glad that his buddy was looking out for me (and keeping me in line) when he was away. He would take me hunting, camping, fishing, ball games, that sort of thing. So we had plenty of one on one time to engage on those other topics. He bought me my first jockstrap, and armed me with everything you could possibly want to know about sex. Let’s say I was well prepared when I became sexually active. So between my dad and his buddy, they had me covered.

 

[TideFan4199]

That’s very cool man. Totally get it. Never thought less of my dad. Great you had his bud to fill in…. Had to help and get you horned!

 

[ibz1492]

How old were you when you saw it last? Has he seen yours? Have you talked about your cocks together?

I last saw my Dad's manhood several years ago, as he began his battle with Alzheimer's. When I visited my parents, which became almost daily, I would help my Dad in the shower. All my life, I had admired the size and thickness of his cock and his very large and low-hanging balls. I am fairly happy with my package, but also jealous of his size. When I was helping him wash in the shower, he started to bone up, just partially, and I wanted it so much, more to give him pleasure, I thought, but then to satisfy a lifelong desire that I didn't realize I had. It was wonderful, as it got thicker and thicker before it became really hard. Dad was not able to speak many words by then, but the glint in his eye told me everything. Off with my shorts, jock and tee shirt. It felt so wonderful, I jerked my cock as I slowly and lovingly sucked on a masterpiece that I had admired since I was very, very young. I am so glad we both had this wonderful Dad/son experience.

 

[ibz1492]

In the society we live in today, it’s a tricky line to walk. Between guys experiencing/learning and what is being called abuse today. Sad for sure

So true about that line between wonderful helper and abuser. I wish I had an answer. I was so lucky and would have liked even more direct contact, but other kids in the same situation might have felt uncomfortable or worse. How do we ever know what's correct?

 

[JockbudNYC]

So true about that line between wonderful helper and abuser. I wish I had an answer. I was so lucky and would have liked even more direct contact, but other kids in the same situation might have felt uncomfortable or worse. How do we ever know what's correct?

In general sex with a person who does not have capacity to consent is abuse. Not all desires are meant to be given into. Especially in the case where the power dynamic is uneven as in a parent child relationship. It can be as validating to just tell the kid feelings, hormones, desires are affected by many things. It is normal to have them, and here is how to deal with them in healthy way.
i think the subtext in this thread is what is called father hunger/ perceived as absent father figure with a longing to satisfy that need. Sexual contact causes hormone induced feelings of bonding which is often misconstrued love.

 

[billTO]

In general sex with a person who does not have capacity to consent is abuse. Not all desires are meant to be given into. Especially in the case where the power dynamic is uneven as in a parent child relationship. It can be as validating to just tell the kid feelings, hormones, desires are affected by many things. It is normal to have them, and here is how to deal with them in healthy way.
i think the subtext in this thread is what is called father hunger/ perceived as absent father figure with a longing to satisfy that need. Sexual contact causes hormone induced feelings of bonding which is often misconstrued love.

Very interesting thoughts!

 

[ibz1492]

In general sex with a person who does not have capacity to consent is abuse. Not all desires are meant to be given into. Especially in the case where the power dynamic is uneven as in a parent child relationship. It can be as validating to just tell the kid feelings, hormones, desires are affected by many things. It is normal to have them, and here is how to deal with them in healthy way.
i think the subtext in this thread is what is called father hunger/ perceived as absent father figure with a longing to satisfy that need. Sexual contact causes hormone induced feelings of bonding which is often misconstrued love.

So very true and very sanguine thoughts.