BillyC:
#1- if you’re in your mid-late 50s neither you or your husband are ‘gay elderly’.
From what you've disclosed, you’re both definitely gay, but FFS,
you are not elderly.
I’m very unlikely to see my 7th decade again unless time starts to spin backwards, but I refuse to classify myself as ‘elderly’. I also get decidedly uppity if my partner says that I am. I tell him I’ll decide when I’m old, not him. I love hill walking in the Pennines and am planning to re-walk the Yorkshire Three Peaks before winter for the nth time: long distance cycling on a normal road bike and going to the gym (the last two wearing a jockstrap).
’Elderly‘ people don’t do those things; they go for a leisurely walk on the flat, ride mobility scooters or e-bikes and go for gentle aqua-swim classes. I was also highly amused recently when I was described as a fit (in the sexual sense) guy for a late 50s, after he had fucked me.
#2 - if you keep going down the elderly thinking route you’re definitely going to be what you describe by the end of the next decade. Age is chronological, elderly is a state of mind
BTW: so folks don’t get pissed off with this topic deviation message, I don’t have hair growing up my cock, it stops at the base, although it does get caught in the latex style cock and ball rings. Ouch!