Staying Hard When Bottoming

[CCGuy]

I'm versatile, and have no problem staying hard when topping. When I'm bottoming though, I tend to start "deflating" and going soft, even though I really enjoy bottoming, and I do feel aroused and into it. Unfortunately, when my husband sees me losing my erection, that has an affect on him too, and he doesn't stay totally hard either (he thinks I'm not enjoying getting fucked, even though I love every minute of it). Any suggestions on how I can maintain my erection when getting fucked? Anyone else have this problem?

Thanks, guys!

 

[Mick]

I think this is a normal physiologic response. It goes away at a certain point but then comes back. Not speaking as a bottom, but I’ve read about it many times doing my research. mate.

 

[Pkelley001]

I think this is fairly common and you should talk to your partner to let him know that you are still enjoying it even if your dick isn’t rock hard. Sometimes as a bottom you just want to enjoy the sensations and not worry about your own penis

 

[SocalJocks4me]

I am a bottom and this happens to me as well. My last play date I wore a cock ring and took some blue chew and I was able to stay atleast semi hard while riding my sex partner.

You're not alone friend, once I was more comfortable with myself I have become more sex positive and am enjoying sexual activities.

 

[polar21]

I don't think most guys normally do stay hard when getting fucked unless your cock is getting some attention at the same time. You could try a cock ring, but I would just say don't worry about it brah.

 

[Thomas_C]

It's normal to lose your erection while you're being anal penetrated, I don't rememer where I read it, I would try wearin a jockstrap with a hard cup so it's not too obvious for the hub.

 

[CCGuy]

Thanks for all the comments, guys! I appreciate it!

 

[fubarnd]

I am never completely hard when I'm bottoming. It's easy to get it back to hard with some stimulation but always go somewhat limp when focusing on getting fucked. EveryBODY is different

 

[Mick]

Thanks for all the comments, guys! I appreciate it!

We’re here for you mate! The center of your pleasure is focused on your prostate and ass. My partner has multiple anal orgasms that have nothing to do with his penis.

 

[openjock74]

Unless someone is sucking or stroking me while I get fucked, I rarely stay hard when I'm bottoming, going all the way back to when I started. In my experience, most guys seem to be like that. I'm a little envious of the guys who stay hard from it, but I'm fine with myself as I am. I've always felt that, as arousing and stimulating as it is to be fucked, I know that my purpose is to make my top feel good and cum hard inside me, so my focus isn't on my own cock. It's on his, which is how it should be.

 

[engjock]

I generally stay hard while being fucked, but equally I encourage the top to stimulate me by either playing with my nipples, my cock or spanking me occasionally, or self-stimulating.
Also, either being on top, or on my back with my legs around him means that I can watch him enjoying himself, which really turns me on and I love watching him watch me playing with myself. Failing that I’ll close my eyes and indulge in the sensations I’m getting, or start fantasising.
However, as a near total bottom I’ve always loved being fucked, so maybe it’s what really turns me on.

 

[GingerBear]

I used to be bothered but I discovered when I’m on top riding a cock, I can maintain my erection much more than if I’m one all fours.
I began to notice in newer porn such as Himeros, it was not unusual for the bottom to be flaccid. Certainly didn’t interrupt the pleasure. I think it’s a very normal occurrence. I agree with others, make sure hubby knows it just happens then clamp down on him when he penetrates you. Enjoy!

 

[Mick]

I used to be bothered but I discovered when I’m on top riding a cock, I can maintain my erection much more than if I’m one all fours.
I began to notice in newer porn such as Himeros, it was not unusual for the bottom to be flaccid. Certainly didn’t interrupt the pleasure. I think it’s a very normal occurrence. I agree with others, make sure hubby knows it just happens then clamp down on him when he penetrates you. Enjoy!

Bottoming from the top.

 

[GingerBear]

Bottoming from the top.

My favorite way to receive.

 

[packedstrap]

It's normal to lose your erection while you're being anal penetrated, I don't rememer where I read it, I would try wearin a jockstrap with a hard cup so it's not too obvious for the hub.

Good answer and was thinking the same thing. Watching porn, a lot of the bottom men wear a jockstrap. While usually something pretty to look sexy (which makes me go limp). They might get off later in the act. Be a man and wear a 3' Strap.

 

[openjock74]

Good answer and was thinking the same thing. Watching porn, a lot of the bottom men wear a jockstrap. While usually something pretty to look sexy (which makes me go limp). They might get off later in the act. Be a man and wear a 3' Strap.

I've been fucked in my jock more times than I can count. I was wearing a jockstrap when my virginity was taken, and I was taught that wearing one is a signal that I want to be fucked. I feel sexy wearing one, I'm sure a lot of the bottoms we see in porn feel the same way.

 

[JockbudNYC]

I'm versatile, and have no problem staying hard when topping. When I'm bottoming though, I tend to start "deflating" and going soft, even though I really enjoy bottoming, and I do feel aroused and into it. Unfortunately, when my husband sees me losing my erection, that has an affect on him too, and he doesn't stay totally hard either (he thinks I'm not enjoying getting fucked, even though I love every minute of it). Any suggestions on how I can maintain my erection when getting fucked? Anyone else have this problem?

Thanks, guys!

Wear the jockstrap while you are bottoming.

 

[packedstrap]

Well, I am jockstrap wearing Daddy sporting a 3" man's strap. Mostly BIKE, McDavid or Duke. If I see you looking at me in the locker-room I will look you in the eyes and play with my pouch. Nope not being over to show you my ass. Instead getting hard and wanting you to be on your knees. You on your knees taking care of the coach and telling him what you are willing to do to stay on the team.

 

[BillyC]

I've been fucked in my jock more times than I can count. I was wearing a jockstrap when my virginity was taken, and I was taught that wearing one is a signal that I want to be fucked. I feel sexy wearing one, I'm sure a lot of the bottoms we see in porn feel the same way.

Do tell.

 

[Thomas_C]

... I was taught that wearing one is a signal that I want to be fucked...

Warning: naughty & dirty stuff

Indeed & also the colours are signals for letting the tops know what you're into:
https://www.andrewchristian.com/blogs/acblog/are-jockstraps-the-new-hanky-code

For example a yellow jockstrap:
https://www.jockstrapcentral.com/productdisplay.php?product=17308
if you're into water sports.

https://closetprofessor.com/2016/03/24/the-hanky-code/

https://user.xmission.com/~trevin/hanky.html

 

[Charles]

While getting fucked I range from soft to semi to hard, I‘m soft while the guy is pounding me but I’ll get harder as he is approaching climax. My best time to orgasm is when my ass is full of cock and cum

 

[Diego]

College Boy Here.....Getting fucked while on my back with legs up it HOT. Getting kissed (tongue action) while my boy fucks me always keeps my uncut dick rock hard!! Playing with my nipples helps also.

 

[BillyC]

I think I always had a wide variety of bottoms’ responses and didn’t much care about whether they were hard, whether they got off, whether they liked it — it wasn’t about them, it was about me, my cock, my enjoyment, emptying my nuts. I know the world has changed (and not for the better in my opinion, not by a longshot!), but that’s what man-on-man is.

 

[Diego]

I think I always had a wide variety of bottoms’ responses and didn’t much care about whether they were hard, whether they got off, whether they liked it — it wasn’t about them, it was about me, my cock, my enjoyment, emptying my nuts. I know the world has changed (and not for the better in my opinion, not by a longshot!), but that’s what man-on-man is.

Pleasing all partners in the sack is a wonderful experience!!! So glad it's 2024 and not back in the day!!!

 

[polar21]

I think I always had a wide variety of bottoms’ responses and didn’t much care about whether they were hard, whether they got off, whether they liked it — it wasn’t about them, it was about me, my cock, my enjoyment, emptying my nuts. I know the world has changed (and not for the better in my opinion, not by a longshot!), but that’s what man-on-man is.

Damn